Who Am I?

 How do you define yourself?

Race? Religion?Gender? Social Class? To me these are all merely external labels used to classify groups of people. So here I sit, void of all labels, cursor blinking, mind swirling.  


Who am I? Well….

I am Crotty and Benevento, Irish and Italian, democrat and republican, Boston and New York.

I am the teacher and the student, the mother and the daughter, the oldest and the baby.

I am Janice Joplin and Calvin Harris. I am Rocky and Gone with the Wind. I am bud light and dom perignon.

 I am a chaotic mess with two master’s degrees.  I can’t say I am one more than the other and I won’t choose.

I am a Mother of two curious, active, hysterical young boys who just so happen to have albinism and sensory processing disorder so I am also their researcher, advocate, and behavioral therapist.

I am the wife of an amazing man who is fiercely dedicated to his family. He is a man who makes it his business to bring joy to the lives of the people he loves. He’s my backbone. 

I am a lifelong learner. I am also an educator.  I have been a tutor, a classroom teacher, a teacher coach, and an assistant principal.

I am a parent advocate devoted to helping parents gain access to services, therapies, programs, and tools that their children need and deserve.

If you were to strip it all away, every single label, what would you be left with? Who are you? What do you want for your life?


What do I want? Well…

I want to be silly, generous, and free.

I want my husband to be carefree, to see the light back in his eyes when he smiles. I want him to experience more joy and less worry.

I want my children to be happy and independent.

I want to organize and host a women’s retreat for mothers similar to The “I Need This Spark” retreat hosted by Claire Bidwell Smith and Kelle Hampton in Ojai, CA. 

I want to be an educational consultant/ motivational speaker/writer who visits schools to work with and train students, teachers, and parents.

I want to write a children’s book about albinism, one that will spread awareness about not only albinism, but about kindness and understanding as well.

I want to help parents of children with special needs gain the knowledge needed to access the services and therapies that will help their children most.

I want to write about my journey and share it all in hopes of helping others in any way I can.

14 thoughts on “Who Am I?”

  1. Tarsha,
    I just read this beautiful article you wrote that Im sure anyone can relate to in their own way. Miss you and think of you often! I’m so happy that I got to work with you and to know you in the beginning of my career at 154, some of my favorite years there so far! I remember you always encouraging me to go out & have fun and enjoy life and now that I’m a mom of 2 babies, I totally get it! Being a mom is the most wonderful job in the world but exhausting at the same time! You are one of the most passionate, loving, dedicated and smart educators/people I have worked with and your cute boys are so Fortunate that you clearly make use of all those qualities to be a wonderful mommy & advocate for them. . Hope you are all doing well! Sending love 💙💕

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  2. Tarsha I just read this and it made me think of the day you changed my life- you told me….and i quote “you are too good of a tacher to be a sub, you have to go back to school and get your special education license” and hear i sit 8 years later a special eductaion teacher, married and mommy of two boys, in my school for 6 years and have never had time to thank you enough! You made me realize what I should do! Your words are amazing and so is your family! Especially your boys! What you do and how you advocate for them makes you a super mom! You and your story will forever inspire me! Thank you again for your words that day, they will never leave me!

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    1. Jenn……YOUR words just brought tears to my eyes. THANK YOU!! Watching you grow into the educator, wife, and now mommy you are has been an inspirational experience for me. You have a gift. You understand children at their core. Your family and students are blessed to have you. Miss you and your mom always. xoxo Happy Thanksgiving!


    2. Jenn, Just came across this older post on my blog and re-read your message. Brought tears to my eyes again. As you prepare to being your third blessing into this world I want to remind you what a natural born nurturer you are. I have a feeling you may have inherited from one of the best. 🙂 I am SO proud for you and all that you have accomplished. Big love to you all, today and always. xoxooxo


  3. Tarsha,
    I’ve known you since the day you were born. You amazed me then with your beauty, the love you brought out in all of us and the joy you gave to all.
    Over the years you grew up and only became more beautiful, brought more love and more joy to more people. What has utterly shocked me is your ability to write !

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    1. I love you auntie!!!!! I have a sweet little daydream that we will hole ourselves up in a cabin somewhere for a week or two and write “The Crotty Kids” together. I’m ready whenever you are. xoxoxoxoxoxo


  4. Tarsha, I feel I know you well enough to say how proud I am of you. I have always said you we reborn the day you became a mother. You are brave, courageous, intelligent, beautiful, full of love and much more. I can’t wait to follow you on this new journey.

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